Victoria Polyamory Counselling
Although the typical portrayal of romantic and sexual liaisons has been of the heterosexual dyad, people have often lived unconvential lives. I remember a relative who lived with his wife and their friend. We all kind of whispered about the friend…at that time, it seemed kind of unthinkable, and yet…there they were, the 3 of them living happily together. At least, as happily as the rest of us appeared to be!
The western world has been slow to acknowledge groupings outside the one woman-one man relationship. Whether 3 or 4 people live together, whether the members of a primary couple each have secondary relationships, or in any other combination you can imagine, people form romantic and sexual relationships with people other than their “spouse”.
The recognition of gay relationships has contributed to the visibility of alternate sexuality, and this has been healthy. Alternative relationships may include other elements like dominant/submissive roles, group sex, and fetishes, to name a few.
It’s important for people to be able to meet their therapist exactly where they are, so that they can discuss their concerns freely. Like any area of our lives, it’s important to know that we are the expert. Through open dialogue with your therapist you can be freer to find the Meeting Place…the place where wounds are gently examined and healed. People in alternative relationships have often cultivated extremely open discourse to help them navigate the ins and outs of relationships. They may ask questions of each other more readily, working hard to quell their own personal discomfort as they explore their partner(s) reality. It requires practice, persistence, and transparency…not qualities for the faint of heart!
Please feel free to call Caron at 250-885-1610 if you would like to see her for your relationship concerns.