Counselling at Home

 

 
Recently I had the opportunity to work with a client in her home. She had contacted me due to debilitating fears about flying, her health, and general anxiety. After we talked about some of the concerns she had, we determined that a course of anxiety reduction activities would be beneficial.
 

Holiday Stress

 
 
It seems Halloween is barely past before tinsel and trees appear in department stores, and we are reminded of the annual responsibilities of the winter holiday season. Whether you celebrate the season because of your religious beliefs, or as a time of gift-giving, December can put a strain on your time, money, and energy.

Limiting Ourselves

 

Have you ever thought about the storylines we tell ourselves about our strengths or capabilities? They may go something like this: I could never do that! I am a loser. I’ll never be successful because I am too… fat/stupid/awkward/shy. Or maybe our storylines are about others: I know exactly what you’re

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Enhancing Intimacy

   
 
Feelings of intimacy within a relationship can ebb and flow. When we are busy with our work lives, when we have children, or, when we are experiencing health challenges, our connectedness can suffer. This can result in less communication, just when it seems we could be reaching out to one another more. It can also lead to fewer sexual encounters, which can affect our feelings of

Conflict in Relationships: Effective Communication

    

  

Conflict is inevitable in any relationship. Whether it’s about seemingly insignificant events like dirty dishes, or whether it’s about more personal issues like how often a couple is intimate,
we won’t always see eye to eye with our partner.   How can we negotiate effectively, so that 

How Can We Deal with Extreme Anxiety?

It’s all well and good to talk about things we can do to contribute to our well-being (see my blog from July 12, 2011), but what can we do when our anxiety has gotten to the point where we feel we have lost control? Panic attacks, and the fear of them, can be debilitating. They have the potential to interfere with many aspects of our lives.
Typically, when panic attacks occur, people try to exercise some control over them. They do this by avoiding the people, places, or events that trigger panic. This strategy can be limiting, due to the fact
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How Can We Reduce Anxiety?

      What is anxiety? How can we help reduce the number of anxious or unpleasant events in our lives, or, at least the severity of the anxiety?
Some anxiety is biological in nature – the fight-or-flight response has its origins in the primitive region of our brain. When confronted with something threatening, our body kicks into gear in order to protect us. Sometimes the threats are perceived, rather than actual, and our brain prepares us needlessly. The resultant flooding of our system with hormones and chemicals causes us to have increases in heart rate, perspiration, trembling, and respiration. We can never totally eliminate unpleasant situations in our lives, but we can learn to work with our fear, in order to reduce it, and to cope with it. We can also

Opening Channels

        

The other day I filled out a questionnaire which was exploring how we respond to a physician, or other medical provider, and what conditions encourage us to be open and forthcoming. For example, if you
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Tender and Wild

  
                
Have you ever noticed themes arising in your life? Lately, for me, it’s been about deer.
I have occasion to travel on the highway, and inevitably there are deer. A few weeks ago I saw a deer lying on its side by the road, lifting its head. The SUV that I believe had hit it had stopped.

I Love a Parade

 
There was a parade in Victoria, B.C. on May 23, 2011, Victoria Day. I love the marching bands, the cheering crowds and the smiling faces! It reminded me of another parade some years ago in a small Alberta town called Milk River.
I had gone camping with my daughter and my two nieces to a lovely place near Milk River. We had been into town to buy groceries, and other camping supplies, and one of the clerks reminded us – “Don’t forget to go to the parade this weekend!”
We had an enjoyable camping trip, and a few days later we packed up our gear and headed through town. It soon became apparent that the parade was beginning. A man with a beaming face pointed us

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