How Do You Want to be Remembered?

 

ep·i·taph noun \ˈe-pə-ˌtaf\

: something written or said in memory of a dead person; especially : words written on a gravestone

 

 

As an exercise for getting in touch with your personal goals, and what you value about your life, try this:

take a few moments to picture what you would like to have as your epitaph.

When I’ve asked others what they would like to see on their tombstone or niche, they have said things like:

Do You Get Angry?

 

Do you get angry?  

I read recently that the Dalai Lama was asked if he ever got angry, and he said, “Of course! Things happen that I don’t want to happen and anger arises. But, it’s not a problem.”  I don’t know about you, but I often feel that anger IS a problem. So what is it about the Dalai Lama’s

3 Things You Need to Keep Your Relationship Together

Shouldn’t marriage counselling keep couples together? I’ve been thinking about this lately, because a

Hitting Bottom

 

A Buddhist was falling towards earth strapped into a parachute.

His teacher asked, “Do you want the good news or the bad news?”

“The bad news,” he said.

I'm Having the Thought That......

                                         

When was the last time you challenged yourself? I mean did something totally out of your comfort zone?

Challenging our fears, our long-standing cherished beliefs, our anger, or our sadness can shake us up. It can also bring relief.

One of the things I have been learning lately through ACT (Acceptance and

10 Tips from the Experts - How to Make Your Relationship Better

 

                                  

After three full days of workshops and speeches my head was swimming with new information. I had just finished attending the Milton H. Erikson Foundation sponsored Couples Conference and was eager to share what each and every person had imparted to me. I now realize that this would mean about 10 different blog posts…so here are my top ten revelations together in one post. In no particular order, these are some of the exciting gems from leaders in the field of couples therapy.

 

1. Michele Weiner-Davis - "Don’t be a friend". When couples come to a therapist they do

The Key to Working With Emotions

 

I’ve just returned from The Couples Conference in Manhattan Beach, California. Wow! It’s always exciting to learn new things, and the conference was jam-packed with excellent speakers and informative workshops. Five hundred people attended. The best part of this is that I can share the latest techniques and information with you!

Where do I start? I went to sessions  called The Language of Intimacy, Connecting with a Difficult Partner, Couples Therapy with One Spouse, The New Rules of Marriage, 10 

ROFL*

 

 

I can’t remember where I first heard the affirmation      

It seemed kind of silly to me to say it – after all, I was raised with sayings like, “Don’t toot your own horn!” To say I am successful feels like bragging…and to say that everything I touch is a success, well, don’t get me started!

 

Just the same, having that saying in my toolbox changed the way I view things. Here’s what happened…

Saying the Unmentionable

 

 

Excerpted from: When Things Fall Apart by Pema Chödrön

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WE CAN’T JUST JUMP OVER OURSELVES

 

Hope and fear come from feeling that we lack something; they come from a sense of poverty. We can’t simply relax with ourselves. We hold on to hope, and hope robs us of the present moment. We feel that someone else knows what’s going on, but that

Tapping - Take Two

 

 

Description: C:\Users\Caron\Documents\_My Practice\2013 Website Photos\emotional-freedom-technique_zps4b879b93.jpgRecently I told you about Tapping – this is my second blog post on the subject, and it contains an excerpt from a recent communication from ThrivingNow.com that gives a good example of a situation in which you might like to use it! Give it a try, and you’ll be amazed at the changes that can take place in your thoughts and feelings.  Just as a check - before tapping rate your anxiety or stress from 1 to 10, with 1 being the least, and 10 being the most. When you are done tapping, rate yourself again.

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