I once read that one of the best qualities you can bring to a relationship is the ability to self-soothe. In other words, you maintain your own emotional equilibrium even if your partner is bouncing off the walls. When you are calm, you can be of service to your partner by being fully present with what is going on for them.
In reading Stan Tatkin’s book Wired for Dating I came across what could be considered the second part of this concept. He