The Liminal Zone

Have you ever had the feeling that you were on the cusp of a huge shift in your life? You may have entered the liminal zone, or liminal space. The word liminal comes from the Latin word for threshold – when you’re at that place, you may be about to enter through a door to a place you haven’t been before. Anthropologist Victor Turner describes it as being between “no longer and not yet”.

The F-Word

I’d like to begin this blog post by letting you know that I am extremely grateful for friends, family, and my wonderful clients, and I want to take this opportunity to thank each and every one of you for your support, words of encouragement, gratitude, and suggestions for improvement.

I Like You Because.....


Read any book on relationships and you’ll find advice on how to appreciate your partner. The experts tell us that it’s important to compliment and care for our significant others. In fact, the Gottmans (world-renowned couples’ therapists and researchers) found that we need to give

Getting Your Needs Met


We all have needs, and expressing them to our partners can be challenging. Do your requests end up in arguments? How do you ask for what you need, and have your need met?

Calm Down!

Giving Your Full Attention to Your Partner Can be Very Soothing

I once read that one of the best qualities you can bring to a relationship is the ability to self-soothe. In other words, you maintain your own emotional equilibrium even if your partner is bouncing off the walls. When you are calm, you can be of service to your partner by being fully present with what is going on for them.

In reading Stan Tatkin’s book Wired for Dating I came across what could be considered the second part of this concept. He

Take-Aways for Couples

Sometimes when I am taking a course or listening to a lecture, the presenter will talk about “take-aways”. What is a take-away? It’s usually a summary of the session and can be a valuable tool to aid in review and help memorize key points. In thinking about this recently I realized that it would be great to present a package of take-aways to couples who have completed a block of counselling sessions with me. So, what could be in this package?

Talking About Sex - Part 2

I last blogged about the beginning of my training, along with 19 other therapists, with Martha Kauppi, sex therapist and educator. The course is now over, and I learned a lot! Here are a few of the gems that Martha bestowed upon us.

The Linear Model of Sex/The Circular Model of Sex

The Linear Model

What Do You Want to Know About Sex?

How do YOU talk about sex? Or, maybe I should ask, DO you talk about sex? It’s a topic that interests many of us, yet cultural, emotional, or religious taboos may prevent us from speaking openly about sex, even with our partners (if we have them).

Do you have a question about sex that you’d like to have answered? Here’s your chance!

Upstairs Downstairs - Part 2

This blog post is a continuation of the last one, Upstairs Downstairs (In Your Brain), and describes 6 more techniques to help you engage your child’s upstairs brain - encouraging them to manage their feelings and connect with others in ways that will serve them throughout their life. It is based on the work of Daniel J. Siegel, M.D. and Tina Payne Bryson, PhD in their book The Whole-Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child’s Developing Mind.

Upstairs Downstairs (In Your Brain)

Daniel J. Siegel, M.D. and Tina Payne Bryson Ph.D. have written a book called The Whole-Brain Child. The book is aimed at parents, and provides them with “12 revolutionary strategies to nurture your child’s developing mind”.


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